It’s for the special ones suffering with the most coveted fever- Love! [Actually, to be more precise, the scene after the heart attack (breakup!)]
I once believed, Love is simply a happiness with blend of emotions like, forgiveness, candidness, anger, jealousy, feeling of hatred, at times like a habit, an infatuation, an expectation figure, et al. But all these beautiful and jelly-coated adjectives turn sour when you are been dumped and he asks you to move on!
As love is more being just a kid. It has to be looked upon as a mature gift by God and those who play with it like a kid, usually end in breaking it up!
While observing kith n kin and some hidden acquaintances, (Sshh...) I have realized that there are actually 2 phases, when you are trying hard to come/cope up from a relation (rather been pushed out!).
The first one commences when you start saying things like, ‘It’s too much now, I think I should move on now’, I’ll forget about him & would no longer think of him or call him’…But naah, here comes the innocent gaffe and you end up calling (or message!) him/her (wherever you fit in!) at some odd hour of the day and thus fail to stay erect in your commitment! You then think that, No I really can't live without him, I can’t move on, I want him back…Things like that! You start feeling suffocated, lonely and mournful. You feel as if it was yesterday only when he had opened his heart in front of you or had caressed you in the most adorable fashion you had ever wished for…You curse the moment when he ditched you or walked past you. At that moment of time, you look for some shoulder to grieve upon and a listener who could listen about him (without any cost-free advice!), even if it’s in the wee hours of morning! But all this happens, when just few months have passed off (after ‘partition!’).
Now comes the second phase. And it means that the time has grown more. In this phase you get to realize, that now it’s time to get mature, think wisely and look for a pragmatic approach. We start thinking about the real ‘Happiness’ of our lover (to be precise, ex-lover!). We start believing that even if we are apart, still our lover is happy. And that is the thing which should matter the most! (Puppy love been modified to mature love! I know, I know!)
As you grow and enter the phase two, you start realizing two things. One being his ‘Happiness’ (already been discussed) and the other being ‘Sacrifice’ (on your part!). You realize that you have got to sacrifice your inner feelings, your irresistible desires and alluring wishes for 'his' happiness…
As you now know, ... He is genuinely happy without you...
He has moved along, even if you have stayed behind…!
I am glad that you liked it, Sir :)
ReplyDeleteI tried to portray all those broken souls who have gone through this phase at anytime of their life.
I am commenting to let you know i like what you write, thank you for sharing! :)
ReplyDeletethank you so very much Halima :) i've been away from writing for long, but would try to share more often now. xx
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ReplyDeleteIt's very easy for some one to say that "HE MOVED ON, LEAVING ME BEHIND" but no one tries to find out why he/she did it. Was it FUN? or was it some sort of EXPERIMENT? Must be something !!!! Why don't you start thinking that <<<<< IT'S YOU, YOU MADE HIM DO IT >>>>> Finding your True Love is not easy, it has never been easy ..... What if a Boy is after you for a year and he is just trying to get you to say those 3 magical words " I LOVE YOU "..... And then after all his attempts when he finally thinks, it's not going to work lets move on with life, then there comes the Statement """ HE HAS MOVED ON, LEAVING ME BEHIND"......
ReplyDeleteHow Hard is it to give a chance then and there, to see for yourself if it's worth a shot . Why write Blogs, Letter, Wall Post !!!!! Are you comforting yourself or the people reading your Blogs ...
You think you will not call him or text him but you end up doing that... But you forget the time When that boy killed his brain with a Base Ball Bat and heard only to his heart and called you every hour just to convince you that his love is not fake ....
In INDIA people are mostly influenced by movies, our heart is all BOLLYWOOD. We see movies and then we customise our mind, its the boy who always cheats, if it's a break up lets eat Ice-Cream, watch sad movies, If our love is true we will finally be together and soooooooooo onnnnnnnnnnnnn ......
REEEEEEAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLLLLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY !!!!!!!!!!!!!
GRRRRROOOOWWWWWWWWW UPPPPPPPPPP !!!!!!!!!
" GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES "
It's never late, don't leave it on FATE !!! If you want some one that bad then fight for it. Remember " NO DEFEAT IS FINAL UNTIL YOU STOP TRYING"
RISE & SHINE (Ball is in your court, it always was)
P.S- I really think you have a big heart, and bigger talent skills with your writing of-course, you will have a great future ahead ... Cherish what you have !!! Never regret .... :)